Understanding Her Silence and Storms

Love has its own kind of silence when anger comes in between, the silence that is so quiet and heavy that you cannot hear it. After the laughter has turned into unspoken tension, you are watching her quietly but with a burning intensity. 

You surely didn’t intend to make her angry, right? Probably it was a word spoken thoughtlessly, maybe it was a little thing forgotten, or perhaps it was something you cannot quite identify. But the bottom line is she’s angry now, and the bond that once united you both seems to be nowhere around.

At such times, you are practically wrong with everything you say. You give an explanation, and she just turns her back to you.  When this happens, giving her a present with a lot of thought,  anything that has been chosen with her in mind, will not only mean a lot more than a mere gesture but will also be like a hug.

This is the reason why a gift hamper made just for her could be a turning point in your relationship. It is not just a collection of things; it is a quiet message: “I’m still with you. You are still a priority to me, even when you are angry.” 

So, when the next emotional roller coaster is happening inside her, don’t even think about giving long explanations. Just let your kindness bring the message home.

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The Moment Everything Feels Off

There comes a moment in every relationship's timeline when this episode has to be faced: the first stage is full of fun and laughter, then gradually small fights, misunderstandings and conflicts start to flow, and this is the exact time when your relationships become stronger if you do the right things. 

Sometimes, fights and anger just come across in your relationship even without you knowing, and maybe your girlfriend's mood swings are a main reason. Initially, it does seem to be a major problem, but in fact, it is not so bad after all. Probably, you will be having a similar inner conflict talking to yourself, considering each and every detail for the tiny thing that ignited the argument between you.

The truth is that in many instances, she is not even mad about the spoken words at all. She is just worn out, and anger is the only way she can express that she is in pain.

Why Reactions Often Make Things Worse

The moment our beloved gets mad, our natural instincts respond immediately. We feel like we have to defend ourselves, give clarifications about our intentions, etc. But that is where most of us go wrong.

Her becoming mad is not always in connection to the particular thing you said or did. It is a domino effect of gathered emotions, previous sufferings, and sometimes her hormones doing the thing. 

• The Frequent Error: Attempting to Resolve It Too Quick
  

We men usually handle feelings as if they were problems, something to resolve, a fault to rectify. But she doesn’t want a remedy; she wants recognition. The second you hurry to “fix” her emotions, she interprets it as her being unappreciated.

Thus, in the future, when she is mad, do not say, “You’re overreacting.” At first, do not speak. Allow the silence to dissolve, and allow her to realise that you are there, not fleeing, not fighting, just being there.

• Pause Before You Speak
  
  

It is during such times when the emotion runs high that people often end up saying things that are even more painful than intended. One angry word can ruin the whole peace that has been enjoyed for hours. This is the reason why pausing is so powerful. It is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of wisdom.

• Listening Without Defending
  
  

Listening is really a skill most of us never acquired. Don’t listen to give a response; listen to understand. Show that you are paying attention with your body, and maintain eye contact, and at times, a soft “I get it” can be more effective than giving a long explanation.

• Empathy Over Ego
  
  

Put empathy over ego, and instead of saying, “I’m right,” change your words to ask, “How are you feeling?” The instant you redirect your attention from demonstrating your argument to comprehending the other, then it all changes.

• Seeing Through Her Eyes
  
  

Put yourself in her shoes and feel how she does. It is possible that she has felt neglected, unvalued, or rejected, even if it was not meant that way. When you make it clear to her that you are attempting to comprehend her suffering, she will not be so angry anymore.

• The Power of a Gentle Response
  
  

Reduce your voice in such situations Calm words spoken quietly can quickly calm storms that no grand apology can. At times a soft “I didn’t mean to hurt you” can dissipate the anxiety which is simply aggravated by pride.

Actions That Speak Louder Than Words

Apologies mark the beginning of the process. But what actually matters is the next step – the loving, the lasting deeds.

Simple Gestures That Heal

When words alone cannot console her, try to understand what made her angry; according to her mood, maybe treat her with some small acts of gifts, cooking and comforting her. Maybe buying her a gift hamper filled with all her favourite treats can help her stress level calm down and bring her to her normal state.

When Words Fail, Let Care Speak

You don’t need to say much to make her feel that she is special. A bit of doing, a cup of tea prepared her way, and a walk side by side can bring back intimacy sooner than lengthy discussions ever could.

Why Small Surprises Mean So Much

Presenting something that she can touch and that symbolises your concern may sometimes be the best way to express “I’m sorry”. This is where gifts of thoughtfulness come in, not as a bribe but as a bridge, an emblem of wanting to reconnect.

When feelings are running high, a surprise can act as an emotional softener. This is a signal to her that your caring for her has not diminished regardless of the misunderstandings. The presents symbolise your love and the care you have for her.

A gift hamper can look like nothing more than a bunch of goodies, a few ribbons, and a card. But a hamper just made for her is more than an ordinary gift; it is an apology which even words cannot express. And it is a soft whisper of love in its utmost, showing your patience and kindness.

The perfect gift basket consists of everything she likes best, and you can either personalise it or choose from the wide variety according to her mood today, maybe the herbal tea that she usually takes, the aroma of the candle that she likes most, and the chocolate that she astutely keeps for future delight. 

Best Sellers from Gift Hampers Melbourne That Win Hearts

Melbourne Pamper Hamper For Her: This hamper is just right for wonderful fragrant relaxation after a hard day of emotions. With the calming floral smells, silky lotions, soft candles and a twist of fine wine, this will make her calm and bring back her lovable version. 

Hot Chocolate Hamper For Her: there is no better way to say, “You deserve sweetness,” than through the heart-melting and mood-melting chocolates, truffles, hot chocolate and artisan goodies. This is a very soft way to say, “You deserve sweetness.”

Premium White Wine Hamper For Her: A bottle of fine wine, accompanied by gourmet snacks, would be very suitable for quiet evenings when the connection is being slowly rebuilt.

Her Favourite Tea & Cookie Hamper: It is a basket of delicious warm teas, biscuits, and divine warmth. Because at times, the healing power of consolement is the best way to ask for forgiveness.

Gift Hampers Melbourne brings you each hamper made with care, not only for gifting but also for healing and connecting.

Learning from the Moment

When anger is gone, do not hurry to wipe it out. Every argument can teach something; it holds the opportunity of getting to know each other better.

Do not put off the unpleasant moments; confront them as a couple. Discuss the underlying reason for the conflict, not with the intention of blaming but with the intention of learning. Love is not something just built up during the easy times but also in the inconvenient ones.

Anger is not always going to end up with a break-up; sometimes it is an indication of love. If she did not love you, she would not be that concerned. Treat it as a confirmation that your relationship is a priority and start to care for it.

All couples go through all kinds of stages in their relationships. But what characterises love is not being anger-free; it is the way you cope with it. Next time she gets mad, do not hurry, do not try to protect, and do not try to solve. Just be there, listen and experience it because it is a chance for you to understand what works and does not work in your relationship, and you can correct each other’s mistakes each time. And allow comprehension to take you back to harmony.

Eventually, the heart does not keep track of who was right; it just knows who was nice.

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